Detachment

When I first read “Tuesdays with Morrie,” I learned about Morrie’s idea of “detachment.” What it pretty meant was that there is a certain point that you must detach yourself from situations that you have no control over, and simply let go and “let it be.”

For example, lets say you studied your hardest on a test and you ended up getting a B instead of that A you wanted. Many people will feel frustrated and disappointed by this, and constantly beat themselves up and stress over it. They might then start worrying that they won’t end up getting that A in the class which spirals into other worries about not getting into a good grad school which might prevent themselves from getting a good job, dooming them in the end.

However there is a point where we must learn to detach from our situations and simply accept things for how they are. Once we learn how to detach from these situations are we able to truly live without restraint.

The feeling of detachment is an incredible one. It is like that exercise that many groups do in which you get people to cross their arms, close their eyes, and fall down backwards with the other members catching you in the end. To get over that initial fear of actually letting go and falling down backwards is a really difficult one. “What if they don’t catch me?” and “what if I fall and I break my spine?” are some common concerns that come to mind. However that second that you are truly able to trust in the other members, let go, and fall back freely without restraint have you truly learned how to detach.

Life is tough. Everybody encounters trials and tribulations which adds to the stress of everyday life. If we always hold onto every little thing that bothers us or stresses us out, we will always live life restrained which prevents us from living to the fullest. If we fail to get that position that everybody is applying for and can’t detach from our disappointment, how can we expect to further succeed in the future without having that disappointment holding us back?

Sometimes we have difficulty seeing past people’s flaws and truly loving them for who they are, not what they aren’t. Nobody is perfect. We might have that friend who is extremely forgetful or that parent who is constantly nagging us. However if we can’t detach and take them for who they are, we often forget or can’t see their positive side. We should remember the time that they called you when you really needed them or the time they gave you company while you were lonely.

Human society has become incredibly pessimistic and the art of being optimistic is becoming long-lost. So really try to put it upon yourself to live life to the fullest, and detach yourself from situations that you cannot control.  Look beyond the negative words that others may say to prevent you from achieving whatever it may be. Humans thrive on the future and hope, not on the past and despair. So look beyond the fence of restraint and detach, because the grass is truly greener on the other side.

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